Why Not How
So last time we saw the mess you can get into if you start asking “How?” when you want something. It’s a recipe for confusion, limiting beliefs, doubt and a whole lot of unfun. One big reason for this is that when you ask “How?”, you are trying to do the law of attraction’s job. And it’s much better at it than you could ever be, sorry. Well what is your job then? Your job is to receive stuff. This is the equivalent of making sure you’re at home when the postman comes with your parcel. All you have to do is sit pretty and open your hands.
That’s the reason “Why?” is a much better question to ask when you have a desire. Why do I want a sunny day? Before you roll your eyes (Why would I ask such a question? The answer is so obvious. Sunny days are the best and if you don’t think so you must be a droid from planet Volaxys.), let me explain. Use the question not to get stuck into facts and explanations but as a tool to dig deeper into the feeling of having what you want.
So why do you want a sunny day? Because I get to go to the beach and play games and meet my friends. Why do you want to do that? Because we don’t have to worry about anything except enjoying ourselves and there are warm and fuzzy feelings from laughing together. Then rest in those feelings, soak them in. Concentrate on the freedom and companionship. Keep going until you feel like you’re overflowing with them, feel the way you would if you were right there in the middle of that sunny day running around with your friends.
When you do this, a funny thing happens. With this example, could you have just as much fun playing games indoors with your friends on a rainy day? Don’t protest and say that’s not how it works, that every one just stays in their own house when it’s raining. Sooooo not the point. Use your imagination. If somehow you got all your friends together in a big old house (that might be haunted!) and spent the afternoon playing hide and seek while outside the rain came pouring down, might that be fun? If you answered yes then that means what you wanted is not really the sunny day at all. Right? Doesn’t mean you won’t get your sunny day by going deeper into why you wanted it, but you might also find a different route to your core desire, a route that would have been invisible if you had been stuck on creating a plan and following it.
The thing is when you ask why and keep going—each time you get an answer, you ask the question again—what you reach is one ultimate answer. The corest of the core reasons why you do anything. To feel good. And when you do that and focus on feeling good, well, you don’t need anything else, and yet, the things you wanted come pouring into your life anyway because you now match the frequency of why you wanted them in the first place. The advantage is that controlling how you feel is a lot easier than controlling the weather…